After living together for four years, my partner and I broke up amicably 18 months ago. We stayed loosely in touch. Six months ago, she said she wanted to be closer friends and we met several times. Then she began to postpone meetings, suggesting another but always cancelling. She brushed aside my comments that this was hurtful and finally texted to say we could never talk again and I shouldn’t contact her. I have been denied a conversation about what happened. I wrote saying how she had made me feel, and she threatened to go to the police if I tried again to make contact. I have never felt so desperate. I don’t know how to find closure.
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